The Pursuit of Perfection

This blog is dedicated to all the women in the world. In our pursuit for perfection, we spend so much time trying to change, enhance, improve or modify our physical appearance without realizing that true beauty comes from within. We are our worst critics when it comes to the way we look. We focus all of our attention on the negative aspects of our outer selves and forget to place any attention on all of the positive things we have to offer.

The struggle for approval is consuming our lives as if it’s some sort of cancer. We rely on the media to tell us what we should look like. We rely on men to make us feel attractive. We rely on our friends to tell us what we should and should not wear. We always seem to look outward for the answers but we never look inward.

We much rather spend our savings on a plastic surgery or on an expensive treatment that will make us look slimmer and younger. Yet we won’t invest any time or money on a gym membership or a yoga class or a spiritual retreat that will provide a much longer lasting benefit to our well-being. We prefer to spend our entire paychecks on a new wardrobe thinking it will makes us feel beautiful again. Yet we fail to realize that it’s not the clothes that make you attractive but what’s under them that counts more. We would stock our freezers with low-fat and fat-free frozen dinners but we won’t try to learn healthier eating habits. It’s all about QUICK FIX!

On top of that, the role models we put on pedestal and worship are some of the most dysfunctional, self-absorbed, egotistical, moral-less and talentless women  – Britney Spears, Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan and even Jessica Simpson. Despite all the fame, fortune, perks and glamour lifestyle, none of these women has achieved true happiness. They have so much power to influence the world and what do they do with it – keep on failing every single chance they get. No wonder our perception of beauty is distorted.

The truth is that unless you love, respect and appreciate yourself first, no one and nothing in the world will fill up that void.

How could anyone be attracted to you if you don’t even find yourself attractive? How could anyone want to be around you if you don’t enjoy your own company? How could anyone love you if you don’t love yourself first?

It starts with you, girls. You have to be the ones that draw a line between the fantasy and reality. You have to be the ones who look in the mirror, smile and say to yourself, “I AM BEAUTIFUL!” You have to allow for imperfections because if we all looked like Barbie Dolls, this world would be a boring place. We are created to be unique not to be alike. Don’t compare yourself to someone else. You may never have what they’ve got but they may never have what you’ve got either. Each one of us brings something to the table than no other woman could. Find that special thing about you and start using it!

Your beauty has always been there. Don’t wait for the world to acknowledge it. Acknowledge it yourself and by doing so, you’ll change everyone perception of beauty around you.

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